Pretty much everyone we walk by on the street or casually speak with at a coffee shop has a story that could rock our world one way or another. That story could be uplifting or totally wrench our heart into a fist full of nails from the sadness and pain. We have a 50/50 chance of hearing Dali Lama’ish inspiring words or the “damn my life sucks worse than your’s ever could” complaints.
HOLD IT RIGHT THERE! People talk to each other in-person? Hmmm, haven’t noticed much of that of late. When I go to the coffee shop, which is rare, I use the drive-up window. But wow, when I’m in the grocery store my head needs to be able to spin 360 degrees to focus on avoiding being run over by people blindly driving their carts as they mindlessly text, read emails, or talk talk talk on their cell-phone.
The question is do people REALLY see or hear others? Where the hell has the art of conversation gone – real words spoken orally – not digitally produced words sent into the ethers to another machine. By the way, do you know your neighbors? Do you talk with them more than once a year?
What I’m getting at is most of us probably feel like we are never seen or heard – even when in an in-person conversation. Some folks only hear themselves talk and barely hear what the other person says because they only focus on preparing their response to a comment they barely heard and did not clearly understand.
Is it the others persons fault we don’t feel seen or heard – OR – are we making ourselves small and silent because we are afraid to be seen and heard. The reasons why we would feel the need to make ourselves small can be multifaceted and complicated. Violent childhoods, fear of terrorism, losing a way of life and living on the streets to only be ignored and forgotten, and with our current world history showing us how dangerous life can be, maybe we are learning to fear speaking up.
Comment from Monika Gutscher:
“I love how Sherry puts it. that, by looking each other into the eyes, we pass evolutionary knowledge from one generation to the other. a powerful human technology, if we use it.”